Little white lies
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
28 February, 2008 |
Sarah Fielding has some interesting things to say about
"When it's okay to lie on a date"
Anyone in a successful relationship will tell you honesty is essential to having a great partnership. So is it ever okay to stretch the truth when getting to know someone new? White lies are variations on the facts designed to hide a truth that would otherwise be hurtful or harmful to hear. Here are some of the most common untruths uttered in order to maintain a little dignity and decorum when dating.
Little white lie: I've only had a couple of serious relationships ... Questions about your sexual history are crass and invasive, especially when you're just getting to know someone, so don't hesitate in being vague or illusive when a date starts digging for dirt. This little white lie is a handy foil when the date conversation heads into too-intimate too-soon territory. And if you do end up seeing each on a more serious basis — and decide to be a little more, err, accurate about your exes — you can always insist that you have only had a couple of serious relationships — the rest meant nothing.
Little white lie: I love it, what a great gift! In the early stages of dating, hormones, chemicals and just plain bad taste can make us buy all manner of kitschy gifts for our loved one. We are often too courteous — or too blinded by love — to let our date know exactly what we think of their hideous taste in gifts. We don't want to break our lover's heart — or, worse, miss out on getting presents in the future — so, we fake it. But this little white lie can have serious repercussions — depending how wide of the mark your partner's gift choices are. As time goes by — and the tacky and impersonal gifts start piling up — you'll find yourself dropping none-to-subtle hints (and store catalogues marked with Post-It notes) in an effort to redeem yourself from this little white lie.
Being truthful is a dating fundamental, but there will come a time in every single's life when being a little creative with the truth is not only okay, but essential.
Read more at http://flirt.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=304491 |
posted by Anonymous @ 4:04 PM  |
|
|
|
Dating Disasters
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
26 February, 2008 |
Check out these entertaining tales from Sherry
When Sherry Halperin’s husband died she wasn’t sure she was ready to look for the second love of her life. Dozens of dates later, ranging from bizarre to romantic, she's come up with a humorous and honest book about her experiences in the new world of dating.
Halperin talks with host Mike Cuthbert about her book Rescue Me, He's Wearing a Moose Hat: And 40 Other Dates after 50. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 5:35 PM |
|
|
|
Dutch Treat
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
 The delicate subject of whose paying on a date has
always been a tricky one.
I dont believe it is unreasonable to have the chap in question paying for a cup of coffee at a first meet however on subsequent dates things may change.
Some men are old fashioned in their thinking on this subject and can get quite touchy about who pays for what, others quite open,the upshot is one just has to bite the bullet and get it out of the way early.
Would like to say here though guys, don't think that because you buy a lady lunch that it means you are "entitled" to anything extra or are in effective purchasing a little extra!
I like Wikipedia's explanation of Dutch Treat................
"The phrase "going Dutch" probably originates from Dutch etiquette. In the Netherlands, it is not unusual to pay separately when going out as a group. When dating in a 1 on 1 situation however, the man will most commonly pay for meals and drinks. English rivalry with The Netherlands especially during the period of the Anglo-Dutch Wars[citation needed] gave rise to several phrases including Dutch that promote certain negative stereotypes. Examples include Dutch courage, Dutch uncle and Dutch wife. The particular stereotype associated with this usage is the idea of Dutch people as ungenerous and selfish.
In Spain, "going Dutch" is attributed to Catalans, due to a stereotype that they are somewhat penny-pinchers. A stereotypical non-Catalan Spaniard would compete to pay the bill for the group. However, the common term for "going Dutch" bears no relationship to Catalonia: "pagar a escote" ("cleavage paying")." |
| posted by Anonymous @ 7:54 AM |
|
|
|
Life is Good
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
25 February, 2008 |
 He who find a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord
Prov 18:22 NIV
Figtrees is a fun way to meet other Christian singles and also increase your circle of friends. You can choose between group dinners for 4-6 singles or meet over coffee on one-on-one dates. And it works! In less than 18 months, FigTrees has had three weddings, three engagements and many other couples are in serious relationships….
clear evidence that the Lord’s blessing and favour is upon us. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 8:23 AM |
|
|
|
For The Boys
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
Check out First Date Success Clues
theres a wealth of information to be had here from AskMen.com
So, you’ve done all the hard stuff to get to this point: After successfully finagling your way into a first date, you’ve set the stage for the perfect evening and picked out a nice restaurant, donned some nice threads and picked her up right when you said you would. Now you find yourself mid-date and you’re looking for some first-date success cues, wondering what she thinks about you and, more importantly, what your chances are of getting some action a bit later. The following is a list of some first-date success cues that usually mean that she likes what she sees. We also felt obligated to give you some advice on how you should respond to her cues in order to sustain the date’s momentum -- right up until its earth-shattering climax later that night.
She asks a lot of questions about you.It’s a definite first-date success cue when women get inquisitive on a date, because it generally means that they are interested in you. If she’s firing off query after query -- especially about things like your family and your job -- she wants to know more about you and she’s possibly already even considering what it might be like to have a relationship with you. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 7:45 AM |
|
|
|
Another Success Story
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
24 February, 2008 |
Megan and Ed are proof to keep looking !
 We met on line early in 2006. Edward joined POF in January of 2006 and I have been on here for 5 years or so. Ed was in as TLC2005, and I was on as Gentle Love. We met in person on 16th May 2006, and got engaged the following Oct. We are together over a year now and love each other to pieces.
We are both actively involved in things Christian and have told lots of our friends about the site. We would like to encourage other people to keep trying and be honest with the person you get on well with. Big thank you to POF, and keep up the good work. Cheers from Megan and Ed |
| posted by Anonymous @ 9:18 PM |
|
|
|
A small deception
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
Roseanne met a chap Peter just prior to xmas, had a most pleasant evening, dinner, drinks and listening to music in a venue in Fremantle.
They got to swapping stories of their respective adventures in the Internet dating arena and he told her of an incident were he met up with a lady we will call Angela,
said meet, was to be in a coffee shop.
Peter arrives and looks around but can't spot Angela, so calls out her name and this "lady" turns around in her seat to greet him.
He nearly dies of mortification as Angela is in fact a man dressed as a woman, did I say mortification, actually he was quite mad at the deception and told her "I'm looking for a real woman, not a man " and promptly left.
I guess we cant always judge a book by it's cover, despite this trick, it hasn't put Peter off and he is still out there looking for Miss right, go for it Pete ! |
| posted by Anonymous @ 8:10 PM |
|
|
|
He's just not that into you
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
 Girlfriend bought this one for me and it pretty much hits the nail on the head, its a playful, but honest explanation of male behaviour from the writers of "Sex and the City" Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo designed to stop women wasting their time chasing after men who aren't into them, and help them to move on and find men who really are.
The wisdom of the book can be summed up by: men don't want to tell women when they're not interested - and women don't want to hear it anyway. But don't worry; it happens to the most beautiful, funny, interesting and intelligent women and all it means is that it's time to say 'Next!' |
| posted by Anonymous @ 7:44 PM |
|
|
|
Ode to an Ageing Casanova by Carole Mathis
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
Carole wrote this piece to honor her dear friend, (he was the inspiration for this work) on his birthday, many happy returns.
A thousand dark secrets lurked in his eyes they were hooded and sleepy as sexuality clung to him like a cloak
He is a lover of women, mostly Southern and a lover of words
When he got the two together there was a perpetual temperature rise running from hot to red hot ~~
He belongs to another time before flirting became extinct and the pursuit of romance was still an art
He's the kind of man that other men admire
and women want to be with~~
He is handsome, debonair, dashing flamboyant, dapper and elegant
A gentleman with a silver tongue this persuasive aging Casanova ~~
is part charming riverboat rake and part swashbuckling rogue ~~
He left them all with smiles the happier for where they have been
Each had a rip roaring, fire cracking, roller coaster of a ride and were all the better for buying a ticket and knowing him...
(c) August 2004Carole Mathys |
| posted by Anonymous @ 12:09 PM |
|
|
|
Now just a bit of Fun !
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
Do you aspire to a life of unimagined wealth? Designer clothes? Private jets? Lots of bling? A closet full of Manolo Blahniks or Jimmy Choos? Vacations in exotic and expensive locations? Don’t we all? There are several ways of achieving this uber lifestyle. One is to win the lottery. The other is to marry a millionaire. Dating rich men will have its short term benefits, but ultimately, the final goal is to find yourself a sugar daddy or very wealthy man who is prepared to match the Harry Winston diamond with a platinum wedding band.
Some cynical gals, who probably aren’t very pretty or just can’t give a fantastic b#@* job, would probably say it is easier to win the lottery. I think not. Millionaire dating is a long term career path and should be treated with as much care as your forthcoming huge divorce settlement.
Appearances are everything. Beg, borrow or steal to ensure that your face and figure are perfect. How many millionaire men do you see with ugly gals? Consider all work and maintenance to be as important as the personal banker which you will need eventually when you get your hands on his cash.
The wise girl will also work on her education. To date a millionaire successfully requires a fine balance between mentally interesting and not overly intelligent. No man wants to feel threatened intellectually by his wife. Yes, you will be arm candy, but a little mental stimulation is good for the relationship.
Your homemaking skills should be perceived as being superb. If they are not, then you need to find hired staff who have these skills immediately upon meeting your millionaire. Most single millionaires think they want a nice home life. If you plan on eating out every night forever, hiring an army of nannies for the children, and doing nothing more domestic than letting the staff in, I would wait until after the wedding before disclosing those plans.
Don’t be too fussy. There are lots of pretty gals. There are not a lot of wealthy singles. If you suffer from low self esteem you could initially try an ugly millionaire dating site. My philosophy is, how ugly can they be in the dark? Just think of the fortune. Giving a blow job to a poor hot dude is no different to blowing a wealthy sugardaddy.
My other piece of advice would be to date the older millionaires. These men are in more of a hurry as they know life is slipping by. In fact, if you get really lucky, it might slip by while you are still the official bride. This would mean substantially more of a fortune than a generous divorce settlement. Plenty of physical exertion on the honeymoon could be all it takes. If that doesn’t work, try Viagra.
No single millionaire wants to marry a slut. Expert bedroom skills are a prerequisite, but should not be displayed too soon. Make him wait. Most wealthy men are used to getting everything at the click of a finger, or the flourish of a black Amex card. He will be intrigued if you don’t sleep with him immediately.
When dating wealthy men it is also important to find out whether any of their wealth is available. While family trusts are great for houses and what not, there needs to be some assets floating around in his name for the divorce settlement or probate of the estate. If there are other children on the scene from previous marriages try not to alienate them. You do not want to spend the rest of your life fighting them for their Daddy’s money, a la Anna Nicole.
Where to find the winning lottery ticket? Or in this case, a single millionaire. There are many millionaire dating websites out there. Luckily for the pretty girl, most only require that the male members be filthy rich. Women signing on have to be beautiful, and supportive of a wealthy man’s needs. Could these be much different to a poor man’s needs? Mind blowing sex. Undivided loyalty and attention. Dinner. More mind blowing sex.
Here is a fantastic web page that gives you the low down on quite a few millionaire dating sites. Have a look and see which one suits you best. Remember, practice makes perfect. If the first billionaire won’t marry you, don’t give up. Keep the jewels and artwork that he gave you as gifts and move on.
Diamonds really are a girl’s best friend. Especially Harry Winston’s. Be a trophy wife. Marry a millionaire. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 9:45 AM |
|
|
|
Dating tips for the Mature
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
Some excellent advice to be found here
Dating Tips for Seniors.
Do take the time to make your profile original and reflective of yourself.
Research has shown that singles receive far more responses when they attach a photo. Be honest with yourself. You are no longer 25. You are not expected to look 25. A recent and flattering photo is best.
Be wary of anyone who seems to ask a lot of questions, but never provides any answers.
Seniors dating services are not immune to cyberspace weirdos.
Be honest in your senior singles profile. If you only want a friend, say so. If you are looking to replace the last housekeeper, best state that you are looking for a home maker.
Seniors dating online can be an excellent opportunity to meet exciting new friends. You need never go anywhere on your own ever again. Find a chess mate, a local dramatic fan, an art lover, a traveling companion, or a new spouse.
Online dating for seniors can be a great way to make acquaintances without leaving the comfort of your lounge room. Establish relationships with others when you are in your pajamas with a comforting cup of coffee.
When you finally arrange to rendezvous with your new friends, it is important that you let someone know where you are going and with whom.
Never, ever divulge your financial status to others online.
Never, ever divulge your home address or phone number until you are a long way down the track in the relationship.
You do not want others to think you have a million dollars stashed under the bed and that you are totally on your own. Con merchants grow old as well!
If you are not planning a long journey to meet your new friend, ensure you tick the local boxes.
There is no need to be on your own or lonely. Senior dating sites are growing daily. Avail yourself of the wonders of modern technology. Join the growing trend and enrol in a senior dating service now.
What have you got to lose? Another day talking to yourself? Another day rattling around your home on your own?
Love and companionship could be just a mouse click away. Seniors dating has never been so easy. Here’s a source for reliable reviews on Senior Dating sites. You may be over 50 but that does not mean you have to be single. Senior dating, friendships for the singleton over the age of 50. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 9:38 AM |
|
|
|
Sea Creatures
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
23 February, 2008 |
Heres a nice Free site I have used myself with lots of feedback
Whether you are just looking for a friend , a playmate,hang out or something more and covers both Australia and Worldwide.
Pay attention to detail when filling in questionaire otherwise you may get some interesting proposals, Good Luck Fishing!
http://www.plentyoffish.com/ |
| posted by Anonymous @ 11:32 AM |
|
|
|
Success Stories
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
|
Time for an uplifting link, I think, though not specific to over fifty
Online Date, Lifetime Mate
Yes, I actually met my perfect match on Lavalife! Like a lot of people in their thirties and forties, I was feeling lonely and ready to give a relationship a go. I went to pubs occasionally but I wasn't really expecting to meet anyone that way. It was a little daunting to get online and start dating, but I decided to give it a go, and I am so glad I did. It didn't happen first time round though. I met other people who were very nice but that special spark just wasn't there. Then after several different contacts, dates and friendships...it happened! We met within a week of our first contact and it developed into a relationship very quickly. Now we are happily living together and he has become the model father figure to my children. We plan to get married at the end of this year and we are so happy and in love. I never really thought I would fall in love with my soul mate through an online dating site, but if it weren't for Lavalife, we would never have had the chance to meet. Thank you Lavalife. Perth City, Western Australian |
| posted by Anonymous @ 11:16 AM |
|
|
|
How to .............
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
20 February, 2008 |
Today I'd like to touch on the topic of Net dating profiles.
I've had a few surprises in the last few months, some good, some bad and taking liberties with the written word seems to be quite a common thing, eg using the term average build when one is in actual fact closer to a John Candy size man, perhaps people dont think ahead to the day of reckoning when one finally meets :-)
Below you will find courtesy of http://www.boomers.love-match.net/ a guide to writing a good profile
How to Write a Good Profile :
Are you having problems writing a catchy profile while staying true to yourself? Would you like more replies to your ad? Here are some tips about how to create a good profile that’ll get those emails rolling in…
I simply cannot stress this enough: upload a photo! By far the most important thing about a profile is its photo. Although it is important to make it a good one, if the only one you can find is old and grainy then it is better than nothing. Profiles without photos receive about 10% as many responses as those that do have them.
· Make it a good one! If you can, get a friend to take it. Take loads with a digital camera and pick the best two or three. Think about what your best features are and concentrate on those. Perhaps you could get your hair done or dress as if you’re going out on a date – this will help to set the mood.
· Take some time out to have a look at other people’s profiles, and decide which ones you like. What is it you like about them? Note down their plus points or their catchy titles; try to avoid things they have done badly.
· Turn off your computer, grab a notepad and start writing. People often find it easier to write than type, so why not write your answers out and type them up later? You may find you write a better description without the pressure of a computer screen in front of you.
· Be honest! This is very important – you will only attract the people you truly want to be attractive to if you are honest with them and yourself. If your profile describes somebody you are not, your prospective dates will be interested in that person, not you.
· Think about how your friends would describe you in three words. Better still, ask them! Think about your best qualities and sell them.
· Don’t just tell people about your qualities, show them. Don’t just say “I love music” – what kind of music do you like? Instead say “I love British hiphop – I went to see Roots Manuva last week”, or “There is nothing better than listening to Rachmaninov on a rainy day”.
· One of the biggest turn-offs, according to some of our users, is bad grammar and incorrect spelling. Double and triple-check what you write, or the next person reading it will be a single person who liked the look of you.
So get out your notepad, be honest and be positive. Be specific about the things you like. But most of all – upload a picture
http://www.boomers.love-match.net/ |
| posted by Anonymous @ 9:02 PM |
|
|
|
What's on a man's mind
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
16 February, 2008 |
I recently read this book and have to say it gave me a whole different insight to men . The K.I.S.S Element Geoff says is the driving force behind all mens values, the big boy version of being loved or left alone,played with and fed.Kiss is what men measure all relationships by.Your level on this score sheet will determine your "worth" to him.
K is for Kindred(loved)
I is for Independance (left alone)
S is for Sex (play)
S is for Services (fed)
All men use this system but what we ladies need to look for is The Fifth Element , you'll find it in Geoff's "What's on a Man's Mind ?" I have included an excerpt below
Men in relationships come in two flavours no matter which variation on the boy meet girl theme you pick, or where on the T scale they sit.
Those who are’ in’ a relationship – The Stayer
Those who are ‘having’ a relationship – The Player.
What’s the difference you ask?
The difference is that you’re most likely reading this book because of guys that were, or are ‘having’ a relation with you not ‘in’ it. When men ‘have’ a relationship they look for outside motivations to keep it going, upsides, perks, you be nice to me and ill be nice to you. You give me what I want and I'll let you hang around. The trade! When we are ‘IN’ a relationship this is when we display the FIFTH ELEMENT. It comes from an internal desire or inspiration to make something together better than the sum of two parts. Doing whatever it takes, as selflessly as we are capable of, to grow together in a mutually enjoyable lasting experience. BIG DIFFERENCE!!! |
| posted by Anonymous @ 7:43 AM |
|
|
|
Heart River about the Journey
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
12 February, 2008 |
I received this today and thought it worth while passing on from Larry of
www.matchmatrix.com
In the past I would write and write, one song or verse or poem after another. So passionate was I in search of that ultimate connection. My desire—to be met, to be embraced fully, to be seen. Driven by need, by insecurity, by worry, by fear of loss, I would write, create and gift away, certain that love could not be withheld. That I could win love over.
I was wrong. That was not the way. It is never the way. But I could not have known because I knew nothing else. I had not yet experienced the love I now know. When love appeared. When our energies entwined there was no need for words, nor poems, nor gifts. They are nothing by comparison, thus needless signs of affection.
Now a flower for your beauty. A simple note of joy. A helping hand and loving support springs forth out of pure joy of expression. How do I know this is truly different? Because my thoughts and my creations are written not for another, but for me. I write of my bliss and experience love within me. Only from this place do I share. It is never necessary. Our entwined energies open all the doors, paint all the pictures, brighten our awareness and infuse all we touch.*Is it trivial to attach this awareness to something as simple as a system of recognition and understanding? I think not! I thank MatchMatrix for accelerating clarity, understanding, and the possibility of true love, light years from where I was to where I am today.
No one needs to live in the dark any longer!
Infinite Blessings, Larry |
| posted by Anonymous @ 2:19 PM |
|
|
|
Kenny Doe
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
11 February, 2008 |
Roseanne began talking with Kenny Doe via messenger and found out he had lost his wife and child through a road accident in London and that he was on a contract in Nigeria that would net him $2 million US at it's conclusion.
She asked why a young man of 47 was interested in a lady in her mid 50's ( he was a pretty good looking man too ) and was told that he was attracted to her inner beauty. Kenny asked to buy her a gift , what sort of car did she like, she said thank you but I already have a new car, never the less he said he still wanted to give her something tangible.
This was the first trigger that something was not quite right as Kenny's use of the English language seemed to go from very basic to well educated and back again. Coupled with this was the fact he had described his parents as one white and the other British white and also that he had been born in the same UK town as Roseanne yet knew nothing of it now. The final clue was when he forwarded more photos of himself and Rose remembered having seen one of them before, this led her to Google his name and he was listed under many many identities on a website about scammers , http://www.romancescam.com/ look for William Gains. Lots of stories from many ladies here, well worth a read.
When confronted with this, said person tried to worm his way out , the photos he uses actually belong to a male model called Thomas who works for an agency in Hawaii.
View this gorgeous young man at http://www.focushawaii.com/ and understand how easy it was for the ladies to get caught up in the moment. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 8:03 PM |
|
|
|
Beware Scammers
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
09 February, 2008 |
My friend Roseanne signed up with a web dating site Match.com a few months ago with the idea of meeting a new man, after the ending of a long term relationship.
Another acqaintence had asked her " Why do you need another man, whats wrong with being on your own ?"
Roseanne's answer was simply " I don't need another man but I do want one in my life " and so began her journey into the arena of Internet Dating.
She filled in all the usual stuff, ie what are you looking for and of course her own profile and a little bit about her personality etc and sat back to wait and see what happened.
It wasn't long before there was some feedback and Rose felt excited about the prospect of meeting someone new, one of these was a man called Kenny Doe who it turned out was a fine romancer................. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 9:02 AM |
|
|
|
No Magik Formulas
bookmark this at :: del.icio.us
:: Digg it
|
|
05 February, 2008 |
| The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating my top 10 tips here. |
| posted by Anonymous @ 12:43 PM |
|
|
|
|
Sign up to receive
Our Newsletter
|
|
|
|
|
|
| Archives |
|
|
|
|
|
|
| Previous Posts |
|
|
|
| 272 Central |
|
|
Advertise Here
|
|
|
| Affiliates |
|
|
